One of the things I love most about my life are the people in my life. Whether it is my husband, daughters, friends, family, neighbors, or church family. Life is so much better when we get to do life with the people that matter the most to us. We all have to be intentional about nurturing and protecting all the relationships we have. One thing that I have found to be necessary in every relationship is having boundaries. Every relationship needs boundaries to be nurtured and protected.
Boundaries have been around since the beginning of time.
I believe God set boundaries for Adam and Eve regarding eating from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil for two of the very same reasons we need boundaries in our relationships. We need boundaries to keep things out, for Adam and Eve that was sin. We also need boundaries to protect what is within, for Adam and Eve that was their intimate relationship with God.
Every Relationship Needs Boundaries To Keep Things Out
By establishing what is permissible and what is not within our relationships it allows us to keep things we do not agree with out. This is a big one in marriage and in parenting. All of our marriages and families are unique and it is up to us to establish what is okay and not okay in our own homes. Just because we live in a culture that feels everything should be permissible does not mean we take the same position in our relationships or our homes.
For example in my marriage, we do not have any friends of the opposite sex that we spend time with alone or that we communicate extensively. This is not to say that men and women cannot just be friends, but to keep the potential of or appearance of inappropriate actions out of our marriage, we have that boundary in place. Things that start out as innocent do not always end up that way. Just like for Adam and Eve, by setting boundaries we are guarding against sin from entering into our relationship.
Every Relationship Needs Boundaries To Protect What Is Within
By establishing what is permissible and what is not within our relationships also allows us to protect that relationship. This is big one for all of our relationships. Whether it is letting your kid’s soccer or baseball coach know that your child will not be able to make any early games on Sunday because of how important attending church is to your family. Or not being able to attend a meeting at work because you already scheduled some vacation time with your hubby. Or having to decline co-leading that small group at your church this semester because your work, family, and church calendar is already full.
The boundaries you may need to set in your relationships may be numerous and vary, but the reason behind establishing them remains the same. Keeping things out and protecting what’s within your relationship is important. I can admit setting boundaries and having to say no to things and people is not always easy, however it is necessary.
I’d love to hear about some of the boundaries you have had to establish in some of your relationships
in the comments!