As wives and mothers, we often feel like we have a pretty good handle on things and rarely ask for help. I am a person that truly believes that my life would be a mess without my planner, schedule, and routines. My planner helps me keep everything in order and together. My schedule keeps my day in order. While my routines keep everyone in my household moving along nicely. Yet, regardless of how well we’ve written our plans and schedule out, or worked out our routines, we cannot do it all and should not try to. Asking for help may not always be easy or simple, but is necessary especially from our husbands.
Remember You Are In This Together
The success of your marriage, family, and household is not your sole responsibility. Both you and your husband are in this together. You have different gifts, talents, and abilities that are meant to compliment each other. Asking for and allowing your husband to help you in different areas allows you to use those compliments and love each other in the process.
We can get so much more done and go so much farther when we do things together. Sometimes doing things together will require you to ask for help. Your husband wants to have a successful marriage, family, and well-run household just as much as you do. So no matter how big or small the request may be, always remember that you are in this together. Your need or want being met may only be one request away.
Remember Your Husband Wants To Help You
Most men like to fix things and often show their love by doing things. Yet they often do not know how to help because it appears like we have it all together. They may not want to mess up what you have going on or make you feel like you are lacking in some way. So they wait, seeming as if they are doing nothing, yet truly waiting for opportunities to help and bless us. By asking for help from our husbands for different things and in different areas we are giving them an opportunity to give us not just the help we need, but the help they want to give.
Remember That Help Comes In Many Different Forms
Our husbands may not always be able to take the task on themselves, but they will often try their best to get it done one way or another. At the end of the day, it does not matter how it gets done, as long as it gets done.
I remember when my husband, Eric, started to notice that keeping our house clean was stressing me out. Although he did not have the time to take over the cleaning duties for me, he wanted to help. So he offered to look into getting a cleaning service for us. However, I rejected his offer and he did not bring it up again. I did not want to take off my Superwoman cape or be looked at as though I cannot keep my own house clean.
Then a month or two later after continuing to stress out about my house and praying about it, I asked Eric to get us a cleaning service. It took a lot of humility on my part. To both ask him and to realize I need to care less about what others thought and get the help I needed. I cannot tell you how much of a relief it was to have Eric provide the help I needed and how much of a blessing it is.
Doing life with one of your best friends that also happens to be your husband is a beautiful thing. So remember that asking for the help from your husbands is never a bad thing and is a blessing to you both.
I’d love to know an area you may need to ask for help from your husband
and what may be preventing you from asking in the comments!