As much as I love being married, being married is not easy. It takes a lot of work to have a healthy, thriving marriage. With everything we have going on in our everyday lives, it becomes easy to put our marriages on the back burner. We can find ourselves spending more time trying to get our kids to their next soccer game, than focusing on the needs of our marriages. Our marriages may appear to have order and is working, but it is not being cared for as it should. No one wants to admit that at times some areas of their marriage is a mess. So just like during spring-cleaning our homes need tidying, to be well ordered and cared for, so may our marriages. Clearing out of the things that may be preventing us from having the wonderful marriages we all want. So here are three ways to help you tidy up your marriage.
1) Make Your Marriage A Priority
Tidying up your marriage starts with you making a decision to make your marriage a priority.
When something has light focused on it, it becomes visible and you focus on it. That should be the same way with your marriage. It is easy for our marriages to become routine and lackluster. Yet, our marriages, like our lives, should shine brightly. Your devotion to God and each other should always be visible. The covenant relationship you share with your husband and God should always be a source of light and be a priority.
2) Be Transparent With Each Other
Tidying up your marriage also involves being open and honest with each other. We all have ‘stuff’. Things we may be dealing with that we rather keep to ourselves. Or things that we think if we tell our husbands, they may look at us differently. Yet, it is those very things that we need to share with each other in order for us to remove some of the clutter in our marriages.
Being completely transparent is not always easy, but necessary. My husband, Eric, and I recently attended a marriage retreat hosted by our church that for us probably changed the course of our marriage. The retreat encouraged us to deal with some of our ‘stuff’. We realized we both had been afraid to approach each other because of how the other may react. Yet by coming together, being transparent, talking, and praying, we had a weight lifted off our marriage we never realized was there. So as uncomfortable as it may be, being transparent is necessary. It allows you to tidy up some the ‘stuff’ that may be cluttering and weighing on your marriage.
3) Show Each Other Love Every Day
Finding a small way every day to make your husband feel loved, cherished, and supported can do wonders for your marriage. Tomorrow is not promised, so we have to cherish the days we have with the people we love.
Every day is a new opportunity to do something new. A new day to show your husband that not only do you value your marriage, but you value him and all he does. How this is done is completely up to you and should speak to your husband’s love language. Something as simple as sending him a text in the middle of the day saying, “Just wanted you to know that I love you and am so proud of you! 😘” or buying him his favorite sweet treat the next time you are grocery shopping. Taking the opportunity daily to show your husband that you love him is a great way to take better care of your marriage. If you would like your own copy of the love coupons pictured above, just head here.
Marriage may not be easy and takes work, but it is so worth it. Taking time to tidy up your marriage may be the best spring-cleaning you have ever done.
I’d love to hear about how you plan to tidy up your marriage in the comments!