Spending quality time with our kids is so important. As a dad of daughters, it is essential that they understand true love, know who they are, and possess strong self-confidence. Fathers have a tremendous influence in building daughter’s self-esteem and expectations on how they should be treated. A great way to inform, equip and empower our daughters to become strong honorable women is when dads date their daughters.
A few months ago, I took our oldest daughter to see the movie Hidden Figures. The movie tells the story of three exceptionally talented women of color who were catalysts to the success of getting an astronaut into outer space for the first time. Unfortunately, the women were marginalized, discriminated against and often overlooked because of their gender and color. My seven year old was able to understand at a very basic level that others didn’t want the women to succeed, but they seemed to be pretty smart and kept going to do their best. This warmed my heart and reminded me of.
After the movie, we went for lunch at a restaurant of her choosing. I asked her if she noticed how the women stuck together and encouraged one another, highlighting the importance of friendships. This opened the door for me to ask questions about her friends. I think it is very important to check up on the emotional well-being of our children. especially when it comes to their relationships outside the home. This is an opportunity to discover the connections being made and understanding what they value in others. The movie also provided the opportunity to discuss aspirations, even in the midst of opposition.
Dating our daughters also allows us as dads to discover their interests, hopes, and dreams. Think about how your daughters respond to different situations, their natural tendencies, self-directed hobbies and activities to uncover the treasure God has placed in them. I take to heart that we were all created with unique talents, gifts, and abilities
An adventure waits in discovering who our children are and their purpose on this earth. As their parents, it’s our responsibility to nurture and build their character to fulfill their purpose.
Modeling communication and practical life skills on a date also provides our daughters with great examples on how they should carry themselves and interact with others. Basic things such as letting men open doors for them, saying please and thank you, ordering their own food, table etiquette with respect to utensils and napkins, waiting until everyone has their food before eating, praying over food and for others (servers, cooks, etc.). Equipping them with such experiences will only empower them as they grow in independence becoming young women.
Due to my profession and other commitments, I don’t have unlimited time to spend with my daughters. So I have to be more intentional in my efforts. To maximize the dating experience of dads with our daughters, the following should be considered: an atmosphere of fun and freedom for them, efforts to cultivate their gifts and aspirations, assessing their emotional health, and modeling life skills. Regardless of our home dynamics, whether both parents work outside the home or you are a single parent, validating your daughter’s individual value can be realized through dating them.
I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences dating your dad
or your husbands dating your daughter in the comments!