Although being a mom is one of the biggest blessings I have ever received, it definitely is not easy. The days are often hard and the nights long. There are moments when you feel like life is out of control and you have no idea what you are doing, but the moment passes. Then you realize ‘You got this!’ and are grateful for the crazy yet exciting world of motherhood. You may not know what you are doing all the time because our kids do not come with instruction manuals, but we strive to do our best every day. Helping to nurture, support, and protect the gifts God has blessed us with. Along with that sense of responsibility often comes the belief that ‘mommy knows best’ and we have the perfect plans for our kids lives. I can admit that I have had those feelings at times, until I realized I do not always know best and my plans are not perfect. I know I am not alone.
However, I know someone who does. I had to learn to not trust in myself and the plans I have for my daughters. I had to learn to trust in God’s plans for them. So to help us all, I have two things that will help us learn how to trust God’s plans for our kids.
1) Trusting God’s Plans for Your Kids Means Accepting You Don’t Know Best
This is really a tough one for me. I carried those little people in my body for 9 plus months. With the twins, carrying them around for 38 weeks was no easy feat. Then after having them, I was the one who nursed them at 3 o’clock in the morning and 3 o’clock in the afternoon. I am the one who knows what color cup they like the best. I know what activities both in and out of school they excel at and the ones they struggle with. I see how they process different things and interact with people. So I can see who will one day make a great doctor, an awesome fashion stylist, or the brilliant engineer. Yet despite all of this, I think I know about my girls, and what you think you know about your kids, God knows best.
God’s plans and purpose for our kids is so much greater than anything we could ever imagine. Our kids are destined for such greatness and we should never want to hinder that by thinking or acting like we know best. God gives us wisdom and discernment to be the uniquely beautiful mothers we are, yet we are still human. We don’t know everything or can see how everything is going to work out. So we have to trust that God does and the plans He has for our kids will be beyond anything we could have hoped for or imagined.
2) Trusting God’s Plans for Your Kids Means Accepting We Are Only Human
As much as some of us may strive to be at times, we are all far from perfect. Believing that we are perfect, can achieve perfection, or that anyone else is perfect is a lie. All we can do is do our best as moms. What works for one mom may not work for another. Even within the same family, what works for one child may not work for another. Yet God gave us this huge blessing and responsibility as mothers because He knew we could handle it with His help.
Our job as moms is not to plan every aspect our children’s’ lives. We are to nurture, care for, and instill values that will carry them through adulthood. No matter how much we plan, we all know that not all plans work how we want them to. So trusting that God’s plan for our kids is better than ours is never a bad idea. We may not know exactly what the future holds, but we do know that being intentional about our parenting everyday matters.
Motherhood is not easy and despite our best efforts we are going to make mistakes. So we have to give ourselves a lot more grace and learn how to trust God’s plans for our kids.
I’d love to learn one way you have learned about motherhood
that you want every mother to know in the comments!