A question that so many of us have either asked or been asked is ‘Is love enough?’ With our answer being ‘No’ most of the time. It takes so much from us and for us to make our marriages work. Every marriage, like the people in it, is uniquely and beautifully different. When two very different people come together in marriage, the things needed to make it work are often different as well. Yet the longer I am married and more married couples I meet that are truly in it for the long haul, I have become convinced that the answer to the question really is ‘Yes’. In marriage, love is enough and there are two reasons why I believe this is true.
Love Is Not A Feeling
As much as it feels good to be in love and to be loved, true love is not a feeling. When love is defined as a feeling, like most people ted to definite it, the answer becomes no love is not enough. Feelings are like the weather, wait long enough and they will change. Yet if we define love as the Bible defines it, we discover that love is really an action, not a feeling.
We have to actively choose to be patient, kind, not boast, not be rude, hope, and endure. These things are not feelings, they are actions we have to take in order to truly demonstrate love. The love we have for our husbands should not be based on our feelings. We have to choose to love our husbands daily despite our feelings.
The truth is as much as I love my husband, Eric, he is not always my favorite person and vice versa. We can push each other’s buttons like no one else, and not always unintentionally. Showing him love is not always easy and is something that I have to fight to do at times.
We all go through different things and sometimes seasons in our marriages that can make it hard to love each other. We are not always acting or being lovable. Yet despite how hard it may be or how we feel, we have to choose to love daily. God loves us through the times when we are acting or being lovable, and with His help, we can do the same in our marriages. Therefore making love enough.
God Is Love
If God is love and God created love, how is love not enough? Keeping God at the center of our lives and our marriages empowers us to not only truly love our husbands, but to know that yes love is enough.
Answering the question ‘Is love enough?’ is all about how you define love. By defining love as an action and not a feeling, while also embracing that God is love, the answer is easy. In marriage, YES love is enough. Remembering that will help us all the to have healthier and happier marriages filled with love.
I’d love to know how you show love to your husband in the comments!