Being a wife and a mother brings a lot of joy, happiness, and laughter to our lives. From the cute, yet crazy things our kids say to us every day. To the loving way, our husbands often look at us when they think no one is looking. Yet with all the awesome things that come along with being wives and mothers, every moment is not. There are times, more often than not, that life is hard and it takes a lot of work. Putting in the work for our marriages and our families is worth it, but it can also take a toll on us. So it’s important through all the ups and downs of life that you make sure you invest in yourself.
Practicing good self-care is not only for us, but also helps us to be better wives and mothers. That old saying “If mama’s not happy, nobody’s happy” has some truth to it. You are often the heartbeat of the home. Taking care of that ‘heart’ and taking the time to invest in yourself is important for the well-being of the entire family. So here are five simple ways you can invest in yourself.
1) Have Regularly Scheduled Time With God
Maintaining and investing time in your relationship with God is key. God wants to spend time with you just as much, if not more, than you do with Him. Spending time with God feeds your mind, body, and soul in a way that nothing else can. For me, my day just does not go right if I do not start it with my morning devotions, prayer and praise and worship. How you spend that time with God is completely up to you. There is no right or wrong way to spend time with God, just that you do.
There is something very powerful about writing things down. Seeing your thoughts, prayers, goals, or visions on paper is empowering and freeing. Just like with spending time with God, there is no right of wrong way to do this either. This is simply something you are doing just for you. I recently bought myself a journal Bible, so I can write notes while studying my Bible. I also have a journal that I just write in. How you journal, what you journal about, and where you journal is completely up to you.
3) Schedule Dates With Your Girlfriends (Even If It’s a Phone Date)
Spending time with a really good girlfriend or two is also a great way to invest in yourself. There are just some things that, no matter how in tune or knowledgeable, our husbands just will not understand. As wives and mothers, we need someone in our lives that understands the things we go through while also supporting and encouraging us. Your date with your girlfriends can be something as big as a girlfriends’ only getaway or something simple like grabbing some coffee before you have to pick the kids up from school. If you are like me and some of your best girlfriends also live out of town, then you can schedule a phone date. My girlfriends and I pick a day and time in the week that works for both of us. Then we take the time to talk and catch up. Spending time with and investing time in those relationships is what’s most important.
4) Take a 30 Minute Life Break
With so much going on in our everyday lives, we all need a life break from time to time. By life break, I mean you take a break from your to-dos and normal everyday to something by yourself and for yourself that is all about you. You take 30 minutes to do something that brings you joy and that you enjoy. The possibilities are endless. Consider things as simple as reading a book, coloring, crafting, or watching your favorite show on Netflix.
5) Hug, Kiss, and Tell Your Husband That You Love Him
Showing love and being affectionate towards your husband is as much for you as it is for him. Feeling connected to your husband is very important. This connection is not just physical, but emotional. Whenever I feel like my husband and I are not connecting, it causes a void for me. So making sure I stay connected with my husband is very important, and the same goes for you. There is nothing like being wrapped in the arms of the man that God destined for you to be with.
Taking the time to invest in yourself does not take much, but it is worth the investment. With these five simple tips, we can all practice taking better care of ourselves.
I’d love to hear your favorite way to invest in yourself in the comments!