Sometimes when I look at my girls, I am in awe of how free they are. I know the same could probably be said about you and your kids. There appears to be nothing about themselves that they do not like. They can look into a mirror, smile, and not see one single flaw. They do not try to be anyone else because they love who they are. However, over time, we often find that we have lost a lot of the freedom, the smile, and the joy our kids have. It has gotten harder for us to just be how we are and like what we see. Yet one thing that God has been showing me lately is that it may be hard, but not impossible. God created us all uniquely different and that should be celebrated. It is okay for you to just be you because you are the best at being you.
You Can Only Be You
This is one of the most quoted scriptures we know. Probably like you, I thought I was striving to live up to that scripture, but found that I was not. When I actually look at the scripture, I am surprised to find that this one scripture has two parts. I know “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made”, but not “your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Then once I read it fully, I realized where a lot of us maybe falling short.
If you know ‘full well’ that you are fearfully and wonderfully made, then why do you find it so hard to be just who God created you to be? If you were created to just be you, why do you find yourself often trying so hard to be someone else? Whether it is like a friend of yours, someone you follow on social media, or someone you see on television who just seems to have everything together and the ‘perfect‘ life. The truth is no one is perfect and the only person you should try to be is who God created you to be, you. Another thing that can often cause us to fall short of truly living out this scripture is comparing ourselves to those people.
Don’t Compare Yourself
When you compare yourself to others, especially other wives and mothers, you will always come up short. When we compare the best of someone else with our worst, there is no way for us to feel wonderful about ourselves. Yet the truth is, we are not supposed to compare ourselves to anyone else. We also should not try to live up to anyone else’s standard. Our goal is to be Christ-like and live up to standards He has created for us. This cannot be done while comparing someone else’s highlight reel to your real life. This can only be accomplished by embracing who God created you to be. Knowing full well how wonderful you really are, working on your shortcomings, and working within your strengths.
Work Within Your Strengths
We all have gifts, talents, and abilities. A part of being your best you is learning to work within your strengths. We all have been wonderfully made, yet we do not do everything wonderfully; that is okay. I may not be able to compete and win the next episode of Chopped, but you give me a recipe and a little bit of time, you will want to eat at my house again. ? I have no problem keeping my three girls alive and well on a daily basis, but you give me a pet fish and it will not last a week. ? I know I’m not alone in this. God has given us all gifts, just not the same ones. So being the best you requires embracing the gifts God has given you and appreciate all the wonderful things about you.
Being just who God created you to be in a world that wants us all to be the same, may not be easy but possible. Embracing how fearfully and wonderfully you were made is the best type of self-care you could do for yourself. It is totally okay for you to just be you.
I’d love to hear how you embrace just being you in the comments!