Making the decision to say “YES!” is a big step. Going from only being accountable for your own actions and making sure your own needs are met to becoming one with another person. Respecting and honoring that person above all others is no easy task. Yet despite the pressures you may feel from friends, family, or society, it’s important that before you say ‘YES!’ you ask yourself a very important question. Are you really ready to be his wife? Here to help you answer that question, are three questions you should ask yourself first.
Do You Know Yourself?
I know this sounds like a simple no brainer, but you have to look past the obvious.
Most of us women have dreamed about getting married and having a family since we were little girls. Yet sometimes we can let that dream cloud our judgment. What are your personal goals outside of potentially being someone’s wife? What are your professional goals? Have you discussed them with your soon to be fiancé and does he support them? Are you pursuing your dreams and passions?
Knowing who you are is so important before getting married. Your spouse is not there to make you a whole person, but to complement you. A marriage should be two people giving their whole selves to each other and their marriage.
Do You Know Your Soon To Be Fiance?
This can also be looked at like a simple no brainer, but you have to look past the obvious again. I know you probably know his favorite color, favorite sports team, and how he likes to spend his free time. Yet do you know what his biggest dreams are? Do you know what his goals are for the next few years? What about the next 5 to 10 years?
You probably also know his family, where he grew up, and how he grew up. Yet do you know how his family upbringing has affected how he views marriage? How it affects his future family with you?
You probably know how sweet and kind he is to you. Yet do you look at how he treats others and how others react to him?
We all produce ‘fruit’. The fruit we produce tells a lot about who we are. Does he bring out the best in you and want the best for you? Does he do things for you out of the kindness of his heart because he wants you to be happy? Or does he only do and say things that are self-serving? Looking at not just what you think you know about him, but what you actually know and the fruit his words and actions have produced is important.
Have You Asked God?
This may be the last question, but it is the most important one.
God hears all of our prayers. Yes, He gives us wisdom and discernment. Yet He still wants us to come to Him for guidance and direction. Saying ‘YES!’ to becoming someone’s wife is one of the biggest decisions you can make. That decision should not be made lightly or without God’s direction. Along with praying to God for His guidance, we have to be willing to accept the answer.
Yes, God answers prayers. Yet sometimes, regardless of how much we want something or think it’s the best thing for us, it may not be. His answer may be ‘No!’ What we want or are seeking may not be in accordance with His will. You have to trust that God only wants the best for you and if your potential fiancé is the best, He will let you know.
Regardless of where you are on your journey to holy matrimony making sure you are seeking God’s guidance, knowing who you are, and who your fiancé-to-be is will help you to answer that very important question. Are you really ready to be his wife?
I’d love to know your thoughts on ‘Are you really ready to be his wife?’
Whether you are on your way to saying ‘I Do’ or you’ve already said it in the comments!